I've seen relationships start with a fling, and I've known couples who started out as friends. Passion and friendship can either start a relationship or develop within it. If the balance is right love can grow. Both are aspects of a lasting relationship, but when it comes down to importance, does one win out over the other?
Passion is the factor that separates lovers from friends. Passion can rise and recede during the span of a relationship. It can be nurtured and grow with trust and respect. Passion makes us feel loved, important and desired, but it it's not what holds a relationship together.
Most of hours of the day are not spent being passionate. Couples deal with the everyday things that come with life, like finances, family, and work. We need to support and entertain each other. We look for a partner and confidant... a friend. Friendships grow and change overtime just as much as passion does. Views change and friends disagree. The luckiest of us are able to work through our problems and grow together.
There will be times when it's more important to be a lover or be a friend. In the end though, when I'm 85 and in the retirement home, it will be my friend holding my hand. He will be the man who's company I enjoy most. We will understand each other better than we understand ourselves. We will have built a life together. Physical passion will fade away, but my friend will always be there.
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